What's New?
Happy holidays from all of us here at FTLOI! We are full of joy and Christmas cheer and thrilled to celebrate another holiday season with you once again! We have new products arriving all the time, including stunning Christmas inspired lingerie as part of our Holiday Collection. Whether you're looking to play Santa or simply dress to impress, these sets are sure to "sleigh". Get ready to unwrap the magic of the season with us!
One of our newest products is sure to add some sparkle next time you go down and will have you drooling like never before. Flintts Mints are specifically designed to help achieve a mouth watering, sloppy wet oral experience. These mints come in eight different flavors and sparkle (intensity) levels including; watermelon, grape, cherry, sour tangerine, mint, strawberry, lemon, and cinnamon ginger. Flintts Mints fun flavors are sure to help you generate as much extra saliva as you can to make oral sex even wetter and better than it already is.
This time of year is perfect to get a new toy whether you're on the naughty or nice list. The Snail Vibe Jovi Couples Ring is a remote control, dual cock ring that adds a slight amount of girth to the penis, has three vibration settings, and five speeds! This product is different than typical vibrating cock rings because of the unique snail-like shape. Other vibrating c-rings tend to not allow for constant clitoral stimulation because of their placement low on the shaft of the penis. This placement means the penis must be fully (or near) inserted and not move back out to stimulate the clitoris. The Jovi's unique snail-like shaped vibrator unrolls and curls back up with the motions of penetration, allowing it to keep in constant contact with the clitoris!
Is It True?
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This month’s common myth!
If a penis owner can't achieve or keep an erection it must be because they are no longer attracted to their partner
Erectile dysfunction(ED) happens to many people and is a very common issue. Whether someone is masturbating or having sex with others, experiencing ED can be a frustrating experience. If you or your partner(s) are struggling to achieve and/or keep an erection there are a few things that could be happening. Just because there is a struggle does not mean there is something wrong with you or them. Our bodies, whether we want to admit it or not, are constantly changing and there are many different factors that can affect someone's erection. Also remember people who are having sex are going to experience different activities together, finding their likes, dislikes and new challenges when they occur. It's important to be patient and remember that every person is unique.
It can be easy to feel your partner is not in the mood or attracted to you if they are not erect. This is not necessarily true. If your partner(s) was not attracted to you anymore they wouldn't be your partner(s). Factors like alcohol consumption, medications, tobacco use, drug use, anxiety, stress, depression, age, and even how tired someone is can all have an effect on achieving and/or keeping an erection. While some people in these circumstances experience little to no issues achieving an erection, others may struggle most or every time.
If you or your partner(s) are struggling with ED it could be there are other issues going on. Whether it be a mental or physical issue there are solutions available to help treat ED. Seeking professional medical advice is one solution, like obtaining a prescription for Viagra which has an ingredient that causes an erection once stimulation occurs. Some people may want to try other remedies before seeking professional medical help. There are products such as penis pumps to help with starting an erection. Penis pumps work by placing a cylinder over the penis and then using vacuum suction to draw blood to penis. Products like cock rings may also help once an erection is achieved. These rings are placed at the base of the penis and help to trap the blood in the penis. Cock rings are designed to act almost like a torniquet and, depending on the material it is made out of, shouldn't be used longer than thirty minutes at a time to prevent any tissue damage.
Erectile dysfunction is not something that anyone wants to or chooses to experience. When a person is struggling to achieve and/or keep an erection it can bring up feelings of anxiety, embarrassment, shame, guilt, and even inadequacy. Our bodies are constantly changing and there is no shame in that. Just because someone is struggling to achieve or keep an erection does not mean they are no longer attracted to their partner(s). Many people who experience ED are able to find a solution that works best for them. While it may be frustrating trying to find the best solution for you or your partner(s) it's important to give grace and have patience. There is nothing wrong with needing help to get the results that are desired.
Staff Stars
This December we'd like to show off a team member who sparkles just as much as snow in the sun. Michelle has been on our team for about a year and a half now and we are so thankful and happy to have her on our team.
Often times when at FTLOI she is is hard at work on many different projects. She stays constantly busy with important responsibilities like working on our website, processing online orders, and helping all you amazing people in store. Michelle strives to help people learn, feel comfortable and explore their sexuality just as she has since joining our team.
Michelle participates in lots of fun activities including snowboarding, soccer, crafts, and spending quality time with her girlfriend. One of her favorite activities is going to festivals. The first festival she went to was Beyond Wonderland 2021, and it showed her that she has a love for festivals, the music, and the community it creates. Speaking of favorites, her favorite season is Winter where she can get out in the snow to explore, spend time with her family, and celebrate Christmas. Michelle is also celebrating her birthday with us this month and we'd like to say, "Happy Birthday Michelle" and here's to many more! Thank you for being a part of our FTLOI team and all the incredible work you do.
Sasha Says
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This month’s top question from you!
Is squirting actually a real orgasm or is it just pee?
There are so many sexual experiences to have and many questions might arise when you discover something new. One experience that has more than its share of curiosity, mystery, and questions is squirting. Squirting is an act, specific to vulva owners, where an excess amount of fluid is forcibly expelled from the urethra during or immediately after an orgasm. So, if squirt comes from the urethra, does that mean that it's just pee? Also, why do some people experience squirting and others don't? These are all great questions, so let's dive in!
First of all, it helps to know what exactly an orgasm is. An orgasm is the peak of sexual arousal when the body releases sexual tension and typically last a few seconds. People typically experience this through genitalia, but can experience them from other known erogenous zones. People can even achieve an orgasm through parts that are commonly non-sexual. When you experience an orgasm hormones like dopamine and oxytocin are released. You will notice that your heart rate, blood pressure and breathing will all increase as orgasm nears. During orgasm muscles will involuntarily and rhythmically throughout the body and genitalia. Along with having theses muscles contract, vulva owners may notice a release of fluid during or after orgasm.
So, what is this fluid being released from the vagina? First off, let's note that just because someone has an orgasm does not mean that fluid will be released. Each and every person is different. If you have ever experienced an orgasm and noticed after there was a thick milky type fluid present after, then you have most likely experienced ejaculation. This is a different release than squirting. Ejaculation for vulva owners comes from the Paraurethral glands, which are also known as Skene's glands. Skene's glands are found on on the lower end of the urethra, just below the opening. This pair of glands produce natural lubrication for the urethra and the vaginal entrance. During orgasm they may release fluid, which is referred to as ejaculate. It has a similar composition to semen and contains fructose, glucose, protein, and a prostate-specific antigen (PSA). This ejaculate is not urine and is different than squirting.
So, if ejaculation isn't urine or squirting, then what is squirting? Squirting is a clear fluid and is typically expelled in a larger amount compared to ejaculate. The definition of squirting is; a release or gushing of tens to hundreds of milliliters of clear fluid from the urethra, usually during orgasm or high arousal. This fluid contains various amounts of urea, creatinine, and uric acid which is released as a waste product in urine. The entire composition of squirt is still not completely clear and varies for each person, but it often contains urine and high levels glucose and PSA like ejaculation. There was a small study done in 2022 where researchers emptied the bladders of five people and then injected their bladder with a blue dye. After the dye was injected participants were then stimulated until they achieved squirting. Following stimulation and collecting the fluid ,an evaluation was performed and fluid from all participants came back blue. This conclusion indicated that squirt is mostly urine but does have other components.
Lastly, squirting is something that not everyone can do. One study from 2018 concluded that the amount of people that actually have the ability squirt is only between 10%-54%. Roughly 45% of people that have reported they are able to squirt discovered they could do so accidently. Remember every body is different and just because someone may not be able to squirt does not mean there is something wrong. That is just the way their body is and the reasons why some people can or cannot squirt is unknown. There are people who can squirt from just clitoral stimulation, others who squirt from just internal stimulation, those from dual stimulation, and some not at all.
So let's go back to the real reason we're here, is squirt its own orgasm related fluid or is it just pee? From the little amount of scientific data available we can say the exact components of squirt will vary from person to person and while it may contain some urine, it is not entirely urine. The volume of squirt is also different for everyone, with some being a large amounts and others being just a little bit. When someone squirts they are either currently experiencing an orgasm or just experienced one. While not everyone is able to experience squirting, most everyone is able to experience an orgasm in some form. As a final note, if a wet and wild explosion at orgasm excites your or your partner, just enjoy the aquatic fireworks and worry less about what is in it!
We hope to help you and your partner(s) learn, grow, and enjoy together. Please submit your questions and we may be able to help answer! Check back next month to see if others are wondering the same.
XOXO~Sasha
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