What's New?
Welcome to a fun-filled February at FTLOI! We've got another exciting month lined up for you to explore new activities and dive into your wildest dreams. If you're curious about trying out some new toys, looking to add to your growing collection, or celebrating something special, we've got you covered.
Also, Valentine's Day is just around the corner and it's the perfect opportunity to celebrate and cherish your partner(s)! Whether you're whipping up a romantic dinner with something fun like penis pasta, treating your partner(s) to a soothing and sensual massage, or perusing an exciting fantasy, we're here to help you find exactly what you need.
Remember, it doesn't have to be a holiday in order to celebrate or start exploring something new. If you're in the mood to try something new, make sure to check out our new arrivals section. We've got incredible new items like the Femme Funn Sormi Fingerlike Bullet, Alien Nation Copperhead Rechargeable Silicone Vibrating Grinder with Remote Control, the Nobu Rainbow Silicone Plug Set, and even more to help you discover what you enjoy most.
What about trying out a strap-on? Whether you're the one wearing it or the one receiving, jump into the experience with the Boundless Silicone Curve Pegging Kit! This amazing kit comes with three silicone dildos in different sizes and an adjustable strap-on harness that fits a waist up to sixty-one inches. It's the perfect addition for every toy collection!
Do you ever wish there was another holiday to pamper and adore your partner? No worries, March is on its way! Get ready for "Steak and Blowjob Day" on March 14th—celebrate with a delicious steak dinner and your partner(s) as the delightful dessert. We're excited to offer a unique Blowjob Basket filled with handpicked items to help you enjoy another yet another exciting holiday!
Is It True?
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This month’s common myth!  Â
Is it true that if a penis owner enjoys anal play they must be attracted to other penis owners?
Grasping that sexuality, identity, and sexual orientation are separate topics is the first thrilling step in tackling the big question, "Is it true, that if a person with a penis enjoys anal play, they must be attracted to others with a penis?" The short answer is, no! Who someone is attracted to is entirely separate from how they explore their sexuality and what they enjoy. A person can identify as a straight male and still use anal toys or enjoy anal sex. Sex is about giving and receiving pleasure. If this person finds joy in anal sex and identifies as a straight male, then he remains a straight male who enjoys anal sex; nothing about his identity changes unless he chooses so.
Sexuality is all about how a person experiences and expresses themselves sexually. There are countless ways to embrace yourself in your sexuality. However you choose to do this is not only valid but something to celebrate with joy! Whether you're having sex everyday, discovering exciting new fantasies, or choosing not to participate in sex at all remember that everyone is unique and will have their own preferences.
Everyone has different preferences and that's okay. Preferences are a fundamental part of what makes you, you. The activities someone engages in during sex doesn't define their sexual orientation; they're simply preferences. A preference is just a liking for one option over another, and they pop up not only in relationships but also in everyday life. Everyone's preferences are one-of-a-kind, and no preference is better than another. Some people adore pineapple on pizza, while others wouldn't dream of it. Disliking pineapple doesn't mean someone dislikes pizza; they might just prefer it without, or maybe they love classic pepperoni or plain cheese. Think of sexual preferences in the same way—they're all about the individual.
Your sexual identity encompasses you as an entire individual. Parts of your identity are made up of different factors including your sexuality and sexual orientation. Just like fingerprints, your identity is uniquely yours. How you define your gender, express your sexuality, and define your sexual orientation are all integral aspects of who you are and your sexual identity. As you start to explore your sexual orientation and sexuality, you might decide to identify in a new way, and that's completely valid.
Sexual orientation is all about who you feel attracted to. When you're exploring your attractions, the possibilities are endless! Are you queer, gay, lesbian, straight, bisexual, or something entirely different? There's no "right way" to identify. Your attractions are uniquely yours, and only you have the power to define them!
Figuring out who you are is an amazing adventure, whether you're exploring your sexual orientation, sexuality, or identity. Knowing what you like is key to having the best experiences, whether you're solo or with a partner. Remember, your preferences don't define you—only you can do that.
Staff Stars
This month, we're thrilled to celebrate the newest addition to the FTLOI family, Brandii! In just a few months, she has already become an invaluable asset to our team. Her passion for learning and her eagerness
to share her knowledge with others are some of her favorite aspects of working at FTLOI.
Brandii is a powerhouse of activity, juggling numerous roles beyond FTLOI. She runs her own company and fills her spare time with plenty of exciting endeavors. From voice acting and creating online content to crafting animations with her amazing wife, she does it all! Brandii is a delightful, kind-hearted individual who ensures you always leave with a smile. We couldn't be more thrilled to have her on our team. Thank you for all your incredible work, Brandii—we appreciate you!
Sasha Says
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This month’s top question from you!  Â
What is the difference between a fetish and a kink?
It's time to dive into an exciting world of new sexual experiences! As you begin this exciting journey, you might discover that you or your partner have some intriguing kinks and/or fetishes. While these are quite common, there's sometimes a bit of hesitation and angst around them. With such a wide array of kinks and fetishes, it can be a bit tricky to tell them apart. Although these terms often used interchangeably, they actually have distinct meanings.
First, when chatting about kinks and fetishes you might hear people use words like "kinky" or "vanilla." These are very subjective words that sit on either end of the sexually adventurous continuum, but what one person thinks is "kinky" another might see as "vanilla." When people start trying out different sexual activities, it could be out of curiosity, a personal kink, or a fetish. While we can fit people into these sexual definitions, the activities they are engaging in are different story. While "vanilla" sex can be viewed as common acts, like sticking to the missionary position or just having penetrative or oral sex without any extras like toys or games, it can be counterproductive to use labels. Everyone has their own take on sex, and there's no one way to label what's "normal" or "typical." There's also no set definition for what's "adventurous" or "kinky"—just different things you might want to try (and a kink or fetish might be WHY). Sex is all about having fun and connecting with your partner(s). If you and your partner(s) are happy with your sex life, there's no need to change it unless you feel like it.
Kinks are activities or fantasies that you have a strong desire for during sex and want to incorporate more into your sex life, however you don't necessarily need them to become aroused or have an orgasm. These activities can be an exciting and thrilling experience and stand out as a unique or focused interest. Kinks are more common than you might imagine. In fact, about 45-60% of people report being curious or having fantasies about different kinks, with about 20-46% actually engaging in them. Kinks are defined as "a deviation, or something outside the 'normal' realm of sexual activities." Again, while there may be a "normal" or "typical" way people tend to think of having sex, there's not a "right" way to define it. Yes, kinky activities can and often do include more adventurous things like spanking, breath play, group sex, roleplay, bondage, and so, so many more, but only you can decide if you consider it a kink.
Well, how is a kink different than a fetish? Instead of a focused interest, a fetish is a hyper-fixation that can be about a sexual or non-sexual body part, inanimate object, or a specific activity. This fixation can even be at such a level the person would need to engage with it in order to become aroused or achieve orgasm. Fetishes are fairly common and nothing to be ashamed of. One of the most widespread fetishes is podophilia, also known as a foot fetish. Whether it's sucking on toes, kissing, licking, rubbing, or even smelling feet, someone with this fetish has arousal and even orgasm strongly linked to it. Podophilia is just one common example of fetishes, but an activity like roleplay is another. Roleplaying and power exchange is an activity that can be a kink and also just as much a fetish. Whether it's teacher/student, nurse/patient, or another type of roleplay, if you need it in order to become aroused or have an orgasm, it's a fetish.
Kinks and fetishes vary from person to person, along with how someone chooses to engage in these activities. Having open communication is important for all sex acts, whether it be fetishes, kinks, or whatever you enjoy with your partner(s). There's a whole world of kinks and fetishes waiting for you to explore, and sometimes you might not even know where to start, or which ones you may or may not have. Our Yes/No/Maybe List is here to help you and your partner(s) discover new activities, preferences, boundaries, and explore different ways of expressing consent. The Yes/No/Maybe list is the perfect starting point for your exciting new adventure into kinks and fetishes. You can fill it out on your own, with your partner(s), or even with your friends. If you are filling it out with friends or partner(s), each of you should have your own list, answer them separately, and then join back together and compare your answers. These lists are meant to be fun and open the door for conversation. Answering the questions and doing some research are just the starting points on the amazing journey you're about to begin!
We hope to help you and your partner(s) learn, grow, and enjoy together. Please submit your questions and we may be able to help answer! Check back next month to see if others are wondering the same.
XOXO~Sasha